Toldos 5721, Class One.Toras Menachem vol 29 page 211-213Marcheshvan is the first month after Tishrei, true Cheshbon of Tishrei must wait until Rosh Chodesh Kislev.Different times for different people depending on readiness.

Toldos 5721, Class Two.Toras Menachem vol 29 page 213-214.Thought, if Aisav’s wife Machlas means he was forgiven think of all other Chassanim, what must forgiveness entail.